First let me say that my kids are still little (7,10, and 12).
I am asking this question here because most of you are successful adult men, many of whom have had children, some of whom are successful and functioning adults (how'd you do that?).
I have noticed a disturbing trend with what is now a majority of the colleagues that I work with that have kids in their 20s and 30s. MOST of them have issues with their kids still being dependent on them, with many of them still living at home with little to no drive to do anything other than play video games. They don't understand why their kids don't want to go out there and be on their own. Heck, I bridge the generation between them and their kids (I'm 37) and I don't understand why they don't want to get out there. I've noticed this trend seems more common with affluent folks, which is why I'm reaching out to pinside.
I don't want this to turn into a "back in my day" or "kids these days are just lazy" post. What I am asking for is any thoughts from people who are well off (statistically pinside) who have successful kids. My boys are still young and I'd like to know if you did anything that you thought helped your kid to turn into a functioning adult. I'm trying to help make sure my kids are on the right path. I'm going to try and make sure they choose a course in life where they can support themselves. We make them do their own school work and don't helicopter parent. I've got some money set aside for college (they are a ways away). I don't want to drop them off at the homeless shelter on their 18th birthday either. For those of you with kids who are off on their own successfully adulting, what did you do parenting wise that you think helped them on their journey to adulthood.
At the same time... those of you whose kid started a little late and is now successful, what did you do to get them started? My sister just announced to most people she's pregnant, but the brother in law hasn't earned more than $10,000 in a year since they got married, mostly working get rich schemes, flipping houses, or trying to sell solar panels. He's 30 and now mooching off of his in-laws (my parents). She works a part time receptionist job at the church. Actually... my dad should find out about the pregnancy tomorrow. It drives me nuts that he isn't shamed by the handouts, and isn't working a night delivery job while trying his current thing (he just got his realtor's license). My parents are well off and are in the process of building a new house. I think my sister think's she's getting the old one rent free... Whenever I bring up how they're doing to my parents, we're just told "you and your brother just were doing really well at that age".
Anyways... any advice on raising your kids to be independent so they don't become boomerang kids?
For those of you with boomerang kids any advice on getting kids on the family dole off the family dole without them starving?
I figured it would be good to ask these questions while the kids are still in "dad knows everything" mode.
And so I tie it in to this site... at what age to kids genuinely become useful at moving pinball machines?
Thanks!
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